Marriage Cut Lines

 “Among His signs is that He created for you mates from among yourselves, in order to have tranquility with them and He put love and mercy between your (hearts) : verily in that are signs for those who reflect.” 
 -Quran Ar-Rum [30:21] 

 “Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” 
 -Rumi

  “The man dreams of a perfect woman and the woman dreams of a perfect man and they don’t know that Allah created them to perfect one another.”  
-Ahmad AlShugairi 

 ‎ “When talking about marriage, Allah says your spouses are garments for you. A garment may or may not fit perfectly-but either way, it covers imperfections, protects and beautifies.”
  -Yasmin Mogahed ‎ 

“There is no greater happiness for a man than approaching a door at the end of a day knowing someone on the other side of that door is waiting for the sound of his footsteps.”
‎ -Ronald Reagan

May Allah bless our families with   forever blazing  love.... 
Ameen.

Have a productive week ahead good people!

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Muslim Woman

How to love your husband Islamically
very important msg for wifes, fiances, daughters
n mothers and for all womens plzzz read n
share..
The Women of Hell Fire. Prophet
(saw) said:
"O Ali, on the night of
my ascension (Miraj)I saw
women of my ummah who were
being severely punished that I
became concerned for them and
started cyring.
1)I saw a woman who had been
hung by her breast.
2) I saw a second woman who
was eating her own flesh and fire
raged below her.
3)A third woman was hanging by
her tongue and boiling water was
being poured down her throat.
4)A fourth was bent over, her hands and feet
were tied together,and snakes and scorpions
were crawling all overher
5)A fifth was deaf, dumb, and blind, enclosed in
a cage of fire her brain oozing out of the holes
in her skull. Her body fell appart due to leprosy.
6)Another was hung by her feet,
inside and over.
7)Yet another woman's body was
being shredded to pieces by
scissors made of fire.
8)One woman had a head of a pig
and a body of a donkey and was
given several punishments.
9)Another had the face of a dog, fire was
entering her body from her posterior and come
out of her
mouth and the angels were
beating her with iron rods
Fatimah then inquired her father, 'Please, tell
me, what did these women do(to deserve such
punishment)?'
Then the Prophet Sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam
said :
'Listen my dear; 1)The one who was hanging by
her breast used to deny her husband, his
rightful pleasure.
2)The one hanging by her feet used to go out of
her house without her husband's permission.
3)The one eating her own flesh used to beautify
herself and show her body to men other than
her husband.
4)The one who's hands and feet were tied
together and covered with snakes and scorpions
never to care impurity and wasn't careful about
ghusl, thus taking her prayer lightly.
5)The deaf, blind, and dumb, used to bear
children through adultery but claim the children
belonged to her husband.
6)The one whose body was being cut by scissors
made of fire never observed hijab in front of
non mahrem men.
7)The one whose body was burned and who was
eating her own intestines used to provide other
woman for ____.
8)The one with the face of a pig and a body of a
donkey was a backbiter and a liar.
9) And those with the face of a dog and who
had fire entering her behind and coming out of
her face was a jealous woman.
May Allah(SWT) protect us from the punishment
of the grave and the punishment of the hell fire
and grant us Janaat firdaus. Ameen.

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Never Stop Making Tawbah

PLS READ, IT S FASCINATING AND EDUCATIVE!!! 

One night Muhammad ibn al Munkadir was crying so violently that his family got extremely worried and
called the great scholar Abu Hazim to calm him down.
Abu Hazim asked him 'my brother what has made you cry so much, and you have made your family
worry about you?'
Muhammad replied 'I read an ayah in the book of Allaah and it brought me to these tears' he was then
asked what the ayah was. Muhammad responded, 'it is the statement in which Allaah says "And there
will appear to them from Allaah, that which they had not taken in to account.''
Upon hearing this ayah, Abu Hazim became so emotional that even he started crying.
Think of standing before Allaah swt on the day of judgment thinking I have done da'awah, and prayed and
read Qur'aan that there will be no major sins on my scale on the day of judgment, .....and then suddenly
sins appear that I had not even taken in to account.
What if I sinned but shaytoon made me forget to make taubah...? or what if i committed a sin for which
my taubah was not accepted?
What if i hurt someones' feelings and didn't know but they held it against me?
What if I teach someone an evil thing & they went ahead teaching others! Alloohu Akbar!
I ask al-Afuw (the one who erases sins) to not just cover my sins but erase them and wipe the slate
clean.
WaLloohi I think good of Allaah, but i am scared and so should you on the basis of a dream that the uncle
of the Prophet (SollaLloohu 'alayhi wa sallam) had;
Abbaas states 'I had not seen a person better than 'Umar, he spent his nights praying, his days fasting
and fulfilling the needs of people.
When he died I asked Allaah to show him to me in a dream. Allaah showed him to me, I saw him walking
through Madinah. I asked him "what did you find after death?" and 'Umar replied "i have just finished
being questioned, my throne (position as a ruler) almost caused me to fall, except that I found a
Merciful Lord"
Even the son of 'Umar , AbduLlaah ibn 'Umar saw his father in a dream and asked him how long his
questioning had lasted in the grave, and 'Umar responded 'it has just finished and when he woke he
realized it had been 12 years since the death of 'Umar!
Bear in mind this is 'Umar we are talking about, the man that the Prophet said would be a
Prophet, if there was to be a Prophet after him, the man that the shaytoon was scared of and would run
across the street if he saw him, the man that opened up more territory for the Muslims under his rule
than any other! And he was not spared from questioning... 12 yearrrrrrs in the grave!
Make taubah now, in the 3rd part of the night, ask Allaah to forgive you for your sins and to not hold you
accountable for that which you have not taken in to account for He is the best of those who are merciful.
BarakAllaahu fih

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Marraige Preparation

MARRIAGE PREPARATION by Ustaz Imtaz yacoob.     BE ROMANTIC: A MUST READ FROM A-Z

Carry her to her bed when she sleeps off in the parlour, make her feel like a baby at times. The truth is, every woman wants to be treated like a 2-year old girl atimes. That's why women behave childish or silly sometimes. You may have an argument with your wife and the next thing is that you will see her taking your bags outside the house, it doesn't mean she is asking for a divorce, she is just being childish, she simply wants you to hold her, look her in the eyes and say " I am sorry for the argument".That's women for you. Every brother needs to study the University of women before getting married, read books about them, learn what the prophet (SAW) said about them and what Allah said about them, and you will hardly have a problem with them. Though you will still have problem(s), because a woman is always a woman and her imperfections are there. Even the wives of the prophet were like that despite their ilm, heekmah and understanding of the deen except Khadija bint Khuwaylid. She was the best among them, she was known as taheraah(the pure), she never shouted at the prophet even though she was old enough to give birth to him, she was the best wife material, a home maker, a sealed nectar, extremely beautiful, the creme of Quraysh, sweet scented musk, stainless and untainted to the extent that Allah even sent Angel Jibrael to greet her (As salamu alaykum). SubhanAllah! So brothers, read books about marriage, an ideal home, child upbringing, fiqh of marriage and the likes. Don't just jump into marriage with an empty head about matrimony! You will have problems.
Even the wife of Umar R.A was once shouting and yelling at him at the top of her voice, a man wanted to come and complain of the same issue to him but was surprised when he heard similar thing happening to Umar. Umar called him and the man explained his reason for coming, Umar told him that; my wife takes care of the house, do the dishes, feed the animals, bake bread, feed my children and takes care of me even though all these are not binding on her, why shouldn't I also ignore her imperfections?
My brother, go and do the same to your wife, and be patient and kind to her for there is no perfection in this world, and rely on Allah, this world is very short ! SubhanAllah !
How many men can tolerate their wives nagging let alone shouting?
Umar said, you should be quiet when your spouse is angry, when one person is fire, the other person should be water. Brother ! when your wife steps on your feet intentionally or mistakenly, don't let your eyes turn red, just smile at her, if she did it intentionally she is just playing with you, if she did it mistakenly its not her fault. So, why shout at her over every small mistake? As a man learn to ignore some things, don't be petty !
Do hide and seek with your wife, sing poems for your wife in the garden or inside the house, even if she is yabbing you. Assist her in house chores and some other things, don't just be commanding her everyday. Bath together with her, wake her up for tahajjud, swim with her if you have the means. Cook together, teach her how to cook if she doesn't know how to. Cooking shouldn't be only a woman's duty...
Use blindfold to cover her eyes and tickle her, scare her atimes, call her from work, text her, write
"I love you" in a small note and put it under her pillow or in her purse or in her bathroom  or inside her cupboard. All these are part of being romantic.
When a woman tells you that you are not romantic, It means you are not doing all these things, it's not the romance in the bedroom  she is talking about! That's why brothers we need to study "women's language" ....

Now sisters, its also part of your duty to be romantic too. Shyness doesn't mean you should be shy to express your love for your hubby, some women think that 'haya' means you should be tough even to your hubby, your husband is now your mahram by virtue of marriage.
There are 3 kinds of mahram:
-by blood,
-by kinship and
-by marriage..
Send sweet text to your husband at work, sometimes even if you are together in the same room with your husband chat with him on social networks, even though he is right there beside you it's fun !
You should be mostly chating with your husband, not non-mahrams on social networks. Buy affordable gift for him no matter how small it's enough for you to win his heart 💝 💘 e.g.  flowers. When eating atimes use your spoon (or hand) to feed him like your baby 😊 , learn how to make snacks, cokies etc to make him happy... Sister! use your soft voice to sing for him, be creative, a poem like (twinkle twinkle lovely spouse, how I wonder what you are, up above my world so high, like a diamond in my heart). Sing poems for him, no shyness there. Al khansaa and khawlaa bint azwar used to sing, ibn qayyim and imam shafi used to compose poems. It's sunnah... When your husband has gone to work, clean the house and tidy up yourself don't let him come back and see you the way he left you in the morning, cook his favourite food frequently, make it ready for him  on the dining table or a safe place, tidy up yourself and the entire house again and wear a seductive dress so that when he comes back from work the first thing he will see is his pretty darling wife dressed as a better person (new bride). His love for you will surely increase by the day... Everybody can be romantic whether poor or rich you can do it at your on level, it's all about contentment !

Don't just be welcoming your husband with an angry face because their is no money in the house or you're not in good mood at least smile :) , Allah is Ar-razaq, he is the provider. Welcome him with a warm hug always ( don't be shy 🙈 he's your property 👍 ), and when he is going to work, make dua for him to return safely. Support him, advise him, wipe his tears, be grateful to him because it's not easy to be a man, when you see his Iman depreciating preach to  him,
-don't ask him for divorce,
-don't compare him with other men interms of richness,
-don't describe women to him,
-buy gifts for him too, cat-walk for him, sing for him,
-praise him in a way that he wouldn't think of a second wife  ,
-be the best cook ,
- tidy up his car (or bike if has), dress him up, take care of  him when he's sick...
Wake him with a peck and don't complain about his earnings..
Ask him to teach you about hadith, fiqh, seerah, usool and others..

Umar ibn khattab said,
"Be good to ur wives," be like a kid to her in the bedroom, but when things get tough stand up and act like a man... Brothers don't just jump on ur wives like animals, the prophet (SAW) said, "when any of you meet his wive(s), let there be a messenger (kissing 👄) between you and her"....(muslim)
Start with foreplay then others...
Read books on intimacy, don't learn it from what you see in movies !
Most of what you see are haram...
Always call your husband with special names, be creative 😊 !
Though you can also call him by his name even if he is 20yrs older than you, as far as he is comfortable with it...
Remember that Allah said, men are the protectors and maintainers of women. So respect him and honour him even if he is younger than you. Marriage isn't a bed of roses but a bed of sacrifice...  The prophet said, "there is nothing better for two people who love each other than marriage"... Imam ibn qayyim said; "To fall in love is a disease and its cure is to marry the person one is in love with."
Love is when you take away the feeling, the passion and the romance and you find out you still care for that person....

Finally, married men, divide your nights into 3: one for yourself (sleeping), one for your wife and one for your lord. That's the best night..May God help us all..Ameen...

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Hadeeth Of The Day

Hadeeth of the Day--(Yawmul jumu'ah(Friday), Dhul-Qa'dah 16th, 1437 AH)

Topic: Don't Envy Your Brother Or Sister

Abu Hurairah may Allah be pleased with him narrated that Allah's Messenger said:
"Avoid envy, for envy devours the good deeds just as fire devours firewood."
[Reported by Abu Da'ud, Bulugh Al-Maram, Ch.4, Hadeeth No.1277].

Message:
Envy or Jealousy refers to a person who is envious of another person's possessions and desires that that person be deprived of them and at the same time aspires for those advantages for himself. This is forbidden. Jealousy is one of the major vices as it nullifies good deeds.

There is no need for anyone to lose before you gain. Life is full of multiple opportunities. Take your chances. We can all make it in our own ways.

Note:
After eating: 1) Thank Allah for the food 2) Thank the chef 3) praise the taste of the food 4) avoid discussing any fault in the food.

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TOILETING SEEMS A CASUAL BUSINESS, BUT DANGEROUS IF NOT DONE PROPERLY

TOILETING SEEMS A CASUAL BUSINESS, BUT DANGEROUS IF NOT DONE PROPERLY. 

Rasulullah SAW said

اكثر عذاب القبرمن البول. (ابن ماجه‏)
Most of the punishment in the grave are due to poor way of urination. 

HOW
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1, when urine splashes on your clothes or body, while urinating. 
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 2, Or when out of impatience, you didn't allow urine to drain out sufficiently before you pull up your clothes. And you have it dripping on your inner wear (very poor personal hygiene, apart from being source of punishment in the grave.

3, or worse still, you as a Muslim, you go to the loo, gents/ladies, convenience, or toilet without water. Not because of unavailability of water, simply because, you aren't use to it (horror! )‎ 

The Prophet consistently ask us to seek protection from Allah from punishment of the grave. 

And he said if not for the fear of people not burying their dead again, he would have beg Allah to allow us to hear the cries of those being punished in the grave. We seek Allah protection from that. 

HOW DO YOU CORRECTLY URINATES 

1, if you are sitting, sit properly, and don't allow any splashes on your clothes. 

2, Gather up your clothes around you very well. 

3, If it's public toilet, offices, airports, hostels, in aircraft, etc clean up the edges of the water closet, before you sit down. The non complying ones, who urinate standing, would have generously soiled the edges with their urine. Clean properly before sitting down. 

4, urinating is a task you don't rush. Be patient, and allow complete drain of urine before, you clean up with water.

5, Sometimes you are on a journey, ‎or anywhere at all, where you don't have the luxury of organised toilet. When you have to urinate on hard ground. Do your best to avoid splashing. If a man, do it while crouching. At standing, roll up your trousers. Apart from cleaning up, I advise, you sprinkle water on your legs. 

May Allah ease our task for us. Aameen ‎

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The Ideal Muslim Home

The household of the prophet (sallalahu alayhi wassalam)was a house of ibaadah!

* When your husband/wife  is about to drink water ....
- Yaa habeebi/ Yaa Habeebatii (My love), have u said "bismillah"?

* When you are about to go and take your bathe in the bathroom with your spouse, grab him at the back and say....
- Yaa habeebi/ Habeebatii, have u supplicated?

* When your husband/wife refuses to wake for Tahajud, Remind him/her....
- Wake up, prayer is better than sleep, fight your desires my love, be stronger than the excuses shaitan whispers to you"

If he/she doesn't still get up, sprinkle water on him/her.
If he/she doesn't still get up, start reciting your own Quran and recite it aloud so that he/she will feel shy to continue sleeping while u are reciting the Quran! He, especially, will be forced to stand up

* When ur husband/Wife is about to eat, tell him....
-Yaa habeebi/ Yaa Habeebatii, have u supplicated?"

* After the meal....
- Yaa Habeebi/ Habeebatii, have u thanked Allah?

* When ur husband returns from work in the evening....
- Sweetheart, did u give out something in charity today, Even if its a date?

* At least once in a month ....
- My husband, since u are not going to work today, won't you perform ziyarotul kuboor? Won't u visit d muslim graveyard to ponder over death?

* During the Weekends....
- My Love, shouldn't we visit our parents and relatives? Remember d prophet (sallalahu alayhi wassalam) said we should NOT severe the ties of kinship

* Every Monday and Thursday....
- Yaa Habbeebi/Habeebati, won't you take a fast today?

- On E'id day....
Husband: Darling, remember eid is wajib, even if u are menstruating, won't u dress up and follow me?

* When Spouse returns from workplace....
- Abu/Ummu, Did u take a moment to recite atleast a page of the Qur'an while u were at work?

* Every evening...
- Husband: My wifey, u know I spent all day at work, did you teach my kids something from the Quran before they went to bed?

* Every day....
- Husband: Honey, did you teach my kids the stories of the salaf today?

* Before your wife steps out of the house....
- Husband: Madam, Haba! Fear Allah woman, won't you wear your jilbab before stepping out of the house? BarkaLlahu feekum

* Husband suddenly sags his trousers....
- Wife: Fear Allah my dear, do not go close to the hell fire, raise your trousers pls

* Husband feels like shaving his beards ....
- Wife: what? I will not look at ur face again if u do it. Pls my husband, Baale mi (Akanji), seek refuge in Allah from the whispers of shaitan

Brothers and sisters in Islam,  We all pray that to Allah to grant us spouses that will HELP us to Jannah....

But after marriage, we hardly "assist" each other to jannah! Some husbands are scholars but they don't do dawah at home, whereas the outsiders benefit from his dawah!
Some wives are AFRAID to correct their husbands bcos some bully their wives!
Its better to correct ur husband even if he will become UPSET than for u to keep quiet while he HAPPILY commits sins! You wil regret ur SILENCE on the last day

Let's all fear the day when fear itself will also be afraid

Many husbands will enter hell while the wife wil enter jannah and many wives wil enter hell while the husband enjoys the hur al ayn in jannah

If u wanna be wit ur spouse in jannah YOU HAVE WORK TO DO

Keep enjoining #maruf‬ and keep forbiding #munkar‬

Marriage is not all about fun all over the house, the life of a muslim is all about supplication

Ask your partner on Jummah Day(have u recited surah khaf today?).

There is nothing in this world that is worth entering hell fire for!
note: you can learn from this even if you are not yet married!!!
May Allah bless us, our families and grant us jannah out of His mercy, Aameen.

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