Giving gifts to your spouse, and how effective a gift is to communicate your love to your sweetheart.
But how about I tell you that not only will it put more love into your marriage, but you will get rewarded for it by Allah (subhanahu wa ta'ala)!!!
How cool is that!
So let's purify our niyyah (intention): While giving a gift to your spouse, keep in your mind that it is the “Sunnah of our beloved Prophet (ﷺ)”.
The Islamic Perspective!
Gift-giving is one of the acts that Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) recommended us to do. It was narrated that Aaishah (RA) said:
“The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) would accept gifts and reciprocate for them.”[Narrated by Bukhari]
Also, Allah (SWT) says in the Quran: “And give the women (on marriage) their dower as a free gift; but if they of their own good pleasure remit any part of it to you , take it and enjoy it with right good cheer.”[An-Nisaa: 4]
'Mahr' is an obligatory condition in marriage in Islam, whereby the groom offers a gift to the bride. Islam encourages the giving and taking of gifts, but these gifts must be of one's own free will and choice, and not something which are demanded by the receiver or custom.
Returning the Favour!
The one who receives the gift should also respond in kind to the favour. The Prophet (ﷺ) said: “Whoever does you a favour, respond in kind, and if you cannot find the means of doing so, then keep praying for him until you think that you have responded in kind.” [Abu Daawood]
Say Jazak Allahu Khayran!!
One good way to respond is to say 'Jazak Allaahu khayran' (may Allaah reward you with good). Usaamah Ibn Zayd said:
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: “Whoever has a favour done for him and says 'Jazak Allaahu khayran' has done his utmost to thank him.” [At-Tirmithi]
Exchanging of gifts definitely strengthens the bond of love between spouses. The Prophet (SAWS) said: “Exchange gifts, as that will lead to increasing your love to one another.” [Al-Bukhaari]
Simple and Practical Gifts!!!
The Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) lived a simple life, so he gave his wives simple and practical gifts. All the wives were given two grinding stones, a water pitcher, and leather pillows as marriage gifts. Some also received a mahr (bride-gift of money).
Conclusion:
So don't underestimate the power of gifts. Not only does modern studies prove that giving gifts increases love between spouses, but more importantly it is recommended by the Prophet (ﷺ).
So what I would advise you is to use this tool and make it a source of getting closer to your hubby/wifey!
And on top of all this, get ajar for doing so!!!
May Allah fill your marriage with love and happiness!
By:
Irfan Ullah Khan
Marriage Success Coach
Happy Muslim Family
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