What A Husband Needs From A Wife Is Never Sex

Sex is an important element in marriage and until there is sexual intercourse between a husband and a wife, the marriage is not yet spiritually recognized.
This shows how important sex is in marriage.
When you look at how aggressive men are towards sex you may think that what a man needs from a woman is sex.
Of course, if he has not married you yet or he does not really intend to marry you what he will need from you is nothing above your body. But if he really intends to marry you or if you guys are already married sex is never what he needs from you - maybe let me say it better;
"WHAT A MAN NEEDS MOST FROM A WOMAN IS NOT SEX."
Many young girls think because they are sexually active and experience they will easily be married and have their husbands loving them.
And when a man approaches for marriage they think the greatest asset they have to show the man is sex.
Others also think once they are giving out their bodies it means they are giving out the best for which reason they will be chosen above all.
There is this young girl who is very beautiful and sexually active. Due to that she thought sex is all that matters to a man.
Ironically, she struggled for long before finally getting married. Her sexual dexterity could not win her the heart of a man until out of the blue and reason beyond imagination a very handsome good man married her.
The wedding was grand and her tears were now gone. Unfortunately only a year after the wedding the marriage fell on rocks. Within five years three different men came her way but none could stay.
The problem was simple. She thought sex was all that matters so she would never submit. But submission is what men need, not sex. It is time for our young ladies to know that when a man is ready to marry he will not look out for a woman who will satisfy his sex drive but a woman who will submit herself to him. Excuse my language, "every woman has vagina but not every woman has humility."
So when you are a humble woman, you are an expensive jewelry. And a man of integrity will fear to lose you.
What does the holy book say, "wife, submit to your husband." The reason is that a man's true love goes out only for a woman who is submissive. Your beauty cannot make another woman ugly but your humility can let him love you above all other women.
Sadly, many young ladies in our days call submission as "control." And you will hear them saying in tiny romantic voices, "As for me I don't want any man to control me oh." If you don't want to submit don't think of marriage because no man in his right sense will offer his love to a woman whose heart is higher than his height, no matter how short he may be.
When a woman bows her knee before a man, the man will automatically bow his heart before her love. And love her sincerely.
There are, of course, recalcitrant men who will not value women of humility but I tell you that every true man does not need sex, but submission. It is submission that truly makes you a romantic wife. So be the QUEEN you want to be but when it comes to dealing with your husband, play the role of a humble maid.
Don't forget that it is the spirit of humility that has caused many maids to hijack their mistresses' husbands. Be your man's queen and be his maid also.
I wish you all the best as you submit in your relationship and marriage. May God bless you with good marriage, my dear sister.......be mindful.

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Mother and Children chat

Daughter: (Coughs out)
Hmmm…It is well o

Mum: (looks up at her, then continues picking her beans) Any gist for momma?

Daughter: (Looks at her) Mum.
I think I am not normal anymore…like, I am sick

Mum: (Chuckles) Sick
Why?

Daughter: Because I am over-sensitive. Whenever I see a guy, I have this weird feeling compared to when I meet a girl.
Mum, I get worried often times if I would scale through adolescence without defiling myself

Mum: (Laughs) you are afraid?

Daughter: It seems you don’t understand mum. When I see a guy’s bicep, oh my God! If he mistakenly exposes his abs, then I would almost faint, feeling as if I should run into his strong, muscular arms and be cuddled.

Mum: And so? That’s why you are not normal?

Daughter: (Eyes widens) Mum!

Mum: That shows that you are very normal my baby girl

Daughter: I don’t understand ma

Mum: You fasted recently shae?

Daughter: Yes mum.

Mum: There was on an occasion that I prepared plantain and fried egg for lunch for the family.
How did you feel that day?

Daughter: Mum, it was sensational!
As if I had never tasted dodo before.
I wanted a bite so bad.

Mum: So, why didn’t you get into the kitchen to get yourself some?

Daughter: Mum, I was fasting

Mum: Nice one! Son, can you hear us from there?
Put off the TV please....

Son: Okay mum.

Mum: As an adolescent boy or girl, don’t think it weird when you are attracted to an opposite sex.
His or her stature or the likes might appeal to you.
It shows that you are very normal.
You wouldn’t say, you are abnormal because you can perceive the aroma of dodo while you were fasting.
Would you?

Both: No mum

Mum: All unmarried people in this world are on a sexual fast or at least, that’s how it was supposed to be. Different dodo, juices, fried fish, chicken; Shawarma and the likes would appeal to them clothed in handsome men and beautiful women of different carriage but block your perception!
You are fasting!

Daughter: (nods repeatedly) Hmmm…I am getting it now

Mum: The aroma could be pornography, sexy boys and girls, devilish games and all but be warned, you are what?

Both: Fasting!

Mum: So my daughter, you are as normal as anything.
It means all the parts of your body are responding well but the Qur'an says you should refrain from pre-marital (and extramarital affairs)!
"And do not move near adultery (and fornication) for it is a shameful (deed) and an evil, opening the road (to other evils)" Q17v32

Secondly, always try to restrict your gaze. 
Allah instructs both believing men and women to lower their gazes (Q24 vs 30-31)

Daughter: Mum, for real, I can’t thank you enough.
I expected you to shout at me and tie your scarf round your waist, stamping your feet on the floor, saying ‘Omo yi ti pa mi’! But no! You are trustworthy and I can count on you. And that is why mum is our… (Signals to the boy)

Son: Confidant! (Both laugh)

Daughter: Bro, c’mon chop knuckle (They did)

Mum: (Smiles) Blessed children…very very blessed!

Both: Most blessed mother

Mum: But never forget the lessons learnt today
(expects an answer)

Both: We are fasting!

Mum: And lesson two?

Both: Always restrict your gaze

Mum: Yes.
The fast would soon be over and your dish of dodo, freshly prepared with well garnished fried egg with a chilled bottle of refreshing drink would be delivered to you but first, wait!
Say, I will wait

Both: I will wait!

Mum: And Allaah will bless you.

Both: Aameen (They hug their mother and she prays for them)

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How To Drink Water

How to drink water ?  As per Sunnah.

The Sunnah way of drinking water is :-

1. Drink water with your right hand.

2. Drink water by sitting.

3. Start drinking water with saying Bismillah

4. See the water before drinking.

5. Drink water in 3 Sips.

6. After finishing say Alhamdulillah

BENEFITS OF SUNNAH OF DRINKING WATER by Sitting and with 3 sips of drinking water.

1. Kidneys never fails.

2. Knees are functional always.

3. Backbone is always strong.

4. Heart Valves never stop.

5. Mind is always active.

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Relax

Relax!
You will get there!
All things will finally work together for your good

Route may differ
Check this out!

Mathematical differences
2+5=7
6+1=7
3+4=7
7-0=7
7+0=7
9-2=7
8-1=7
11-4=7
14/2=7

What is my point???

My point is that there are so many ways of getting to a final destination.

Our creator may not take you through the same way He took your mom, dad, friend or colleague

What matters is that He will take you to your destination if you don't give up

At times, you get there by adding things and people in your life

Other times you will get there by subtracting certain things and people.

Other times you may need the multiplying effect of seed, information and relationships...

Other times, division and separation might be inevitable...

"Some of these may not be fun".

When 2 was alone it may not have been comfortable until 5 was added.

What matters is not the (addition, subtraction, multiplication or division)..

The process may differ

But the destination is still the same..

All things will work together for your good and expected end..

Don't give up on the process

You are a tool.
Do not reject your creator when He adds and subtract things

Do not resist
And in the process learn to let go when He subtracts.

Stop crying, lamenting, and drowning in tears of pity and fear of moving on.

Every circumstance is building you for the castle God has prepared for you.

All things will work together for your good
Head or tail you will win

Don't give up on the process
Don't walk away from the game..

The match has already been decided in your favour.
YOU WILL BE WHAT ALLAH HAS DESTINED YOU TO BE.

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A question from Allah…to you.

By Mohammed Faris

Assalamu’alaikum,

Stop for a minute.. Slow down.. and don’t skim read this.. Let’s have a real conversation.. About something important..actually someone important.. About you..

“About me?!” you ask? Yes, you.

I am speaking to you. The one who’s reading this. Maybe this is the first time we speak to each other. Maybe you’ve met me before in real life somewhere or read any of my e-mails. But today, I’m speaking directly to you..

I want us both to slow down, pause and think about a question.. This question is not a random question that I came up with on my own, but a question that Allah poses to me, to you, to all of us, in the Quran..

It’s not an easy question and you’ve probably read it hundreds of times, especially that the question occurs in Juz’ Amma which we perhaps memorized when we were kids…

But today, I want you to read the Question as if it was posed directly to you… no, don’t pretend, it is directed to you.. Ready?.. Ok, here goes:

Allah asks you in the Quran: “So where are you going?” 81:26

Close your eyes and think about this question for a minute…and think about Who’s asking..

**Close your eyes..just for a minute and think**

Ok, open them.. “So where are you going?”.. Do you have the answer?.. There are many levels to this question.. but instinctively, you know what this question is about.. Instinctively, you realise that it’s not asking about where you’re going to work or school or university… but asking where are you going with your life..

Where are you heading.. with all the ups/ downs/ hopes/ dreams/ disappointments..the frustrations/anxietieis/excitements.. the missed prayers, missed opportunities to do good, miss behaviour perhaps.. Where are you going with all of this?

Where are you going?..

When I think about this question.. I think about asking it in 6 different areas of my life..and in each area, there are some sub-questions that I pose to myself first and I’m sharing it with you here to start thinking about them too..

So, where are you going with your Islam?

• What will your Islam look 10 years from now?
• Will your practice level of your deen be the same 5 years from now?
• How would you ensure that your practice of Islam grows over time and does not stagnate (or even decline!)?

So, where are you going with your Nafs/Manners/Akhlaq?

• What negative character traits would you drop in 1 year’s time?
• What positive character traits would you pick up in 1 year’s time?
• How close is your manners/akhlaq aligned to how Allah SWT and His Messenger want you to be.. and how would you train yourself to get there?

So, where are you going as a Family?

• Are you actively planning your family’s well-being in dunya and akhira?
• Do you have regular discussions with your parents, siblings, spouse, children about where are you going as a family in terms of this world and the next?
• How can you ensure that you plan as a family without being “too controlling”?

So, where are you going with your Work?

• Will you be in the same role/position that you’re in now at work 5 years down the line?
• Are you upgrading your skills/knowledge to acquire higher positions or deserve the promotion by next year?
• Is this the work/career that you want to be in for the next 10-15 years and will it be meaningful enough for you in the end?
• What are you planning to do after retirement?

So, where are you going as a Community?

• Are you connected to your neighbors & local-community – both Muslim and non-Muslim?
• Are you actively involved in helping improve the community both in small things, e.g. ensure a safe clean neighbourhood. Or big things, e.g. helping your community members be successful in dunya and akhira?
• How are you planning, interacting, and working with your community so that you all improve?

So, where are you going as an Ummah?

• What’s your role in the Ummah’s growth?
• Are you a reason for the Ummah’s success or its failures?
• What are you contributing towards your Ummah?

These six questions should keep coming to our minds whenever we remember the verse “So where are you going?”..

Is it a lot to think about it?..It is.. However, what’s the alternative?.. Continue to blindly stumble upon life..hoping things work out?..
Don’t think so.. at least that’s not how a ProductiveMuslim should live..

Hope you’re finding this useful.. feel free to share with me your thoughts/ideas.. May Allah bless you and keep you always productive 

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Why should I Forgive?????

BISMILLAH RAHMAN RAHEEM.........


Here's two greatest reasons to forgive. Even if u don't feel like forgiving or someone has hurt u real badly , do it only with these two things in mind & happiness & bliss will be sure to follow, in sha اللّـه  :

by Hazrat Maulana Yunus Patel Saheb (rahmatullah alayh)

"1.)  ALLAH TA’ALA WILL FORGIVE US:

Allah Ta’ala says:
      “Let them forgive & overlook. Do you not wish that Allah should also forgive you?  Indeed Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.” [Surah An-Noor 24: 22]

Hazrat Abu Hurairah (Radhiyallahu ‘anhu) narrated that Rasulullah (Sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam) said:
     “He who forgives the faults of a Muslim, Allah will forgive his faults on the Day of Resurrection.”

2.)  ALLAH TA’ALA WILL LOVE US:

    "Those who control their anger & are forgiving towards people; Allah loves those who do good." [Surah Aal-Imraan 3: 134]

It is much easier on the heart that we forgive & let the past remain in the past, than hold onto it, carry it with us, & remain unhappy, depressed & miserable. This burden bogs a person down. Many a time, holding onto the past deprives a person of productivity & being able to live life, successfully."

Bearing grudges & holding onto hurt is bad news for ur heart, body & mind. It creates a blockage internally which makes u feel miserable & then manifests itself in sickness & pain.
Do urself a favour - Make ur heart happy, feel light & allow ur goodness to flow through u again. ......forgive.....let it all go...

TO FORGIVE IS TO SET A PRISONER FREE & TO DISCOVER THAT PRISONER WAS U.

 ALLAH ALLAM....

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Couples Satisfaction

When a wife complains of her husband's sexual weakness, I ask her, what have you done to increase his sexual prowess? ?
The kind of food you feed your husband could make him perform soo poorly.
Sex is not an individual responsibility since both of you engage in it and enjoy it. Sex must be enjoyed equally.
Prophet Muhammad s.a.w said when making love, do not walk away until you taste her water and she also tastes your water. Meaning you both reach orgasm.
Let me make the long hadith in " shafa-ul-sudur" short, Prophet Muhammad s.a.w said, when a wife engage in something or beautify herself to attract her husband, inviting him to bed shall be given 10 rewards, 10 sins wiped and her daraja will be raised.
If this is the case, wives you have a big role to play not by only inviting him to bed but helping him last longer in bed and doing the work very excellent.
Let me remind you of Ginger and dried dates.
Ginger is a powerful natural aphrodisiac, increases sexual prowess, increase libido and makes one stay longer in bed.
Dear wives, when your lovely husband return from work in the evening and after serving his meal, just give him Ginger Juice.
Place ginger into a blender, cover with 1 and half cup of water and blend until ginger is thick and pasty. Strain and squeeze juice from ginger, place it on fire and allow it to heat a little bit then give it to oga to drink. Insha Allah he will climb mountain Everest with ease.
I have a friend who told me after making love to his wife just one round he fell off. Then his wife went to the kitchen, grinned ginger and inserted it into his Anus, that very moment his boneless leg became very hard and he climbed Kalahari mountain twice.
As for dates, make sure you both eat if before taking little of your 3 daily meals, it gives alot of energy and moreover it's sunnah eating dates.
Knowledge must be shared, No shyness In Islam...

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