Online Marriage Advisers

Aboo Bannat
ONLINE MARRIAGE ADVISERS.
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Like I always say,
Many of us will come online to tell you how beautiful, merry and colourful marriage is, but nobody willl come online and post his/her marital problems for you to see, yet we all have our problems, so don't be deceived!
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For a person to wake up and tell you not to cook while she cooks thrice daily for her own husband is sheer deception, do not swallow everything you see!
When it comes to marriage, everyone has an opinion or advise, but mention fiqh, and only few people will be talking.
Whoever marries anyhow person from facebook and makes whatsapp , instagram and other social media his/her marriage counsellor, such a person will soon spend her iddah on social media!
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The bulk and burden of livelihood lies on the husband while the woman should take care of some internal affairs, this doesn't mean the husband should not assist him when he is available, this does not also mean the wife should not assist him when he is broke, sacked, indebted e.t.c.
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Your husband is your ATM, infact he is your master card and visa card, withdraw from him whenever you need money from him, but whenever he is unable to dispence cash or out of service, then you may transfer from your bank to him! Simple.
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As a woman, you shouldn't expect that after staying at home all day, your husband who is just coming home after a hard day's job should be the one to come and cook for you and the kids again!
The fact that you saw raj preparing pizza for chopra in bollywood is not a daleel.
The fact that you saw robert preparing cheese for catherine in hollywood is not a hujjah!
The fact that you were raised in a 50/50 home is not a reference point, your family is not a daleel!
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Islam has made everything clear already, each spouse has their roles, but they should assist the other.
There is a difference between intelligence and common sence, not everything is taught in school.