Haya

By hummuh_haiman
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I don't know where this idea of being modest is bad. It's almost like it's shameful to be modest in today's world. And I'm not talking about dress code here, I mean it most definitely applies here, but I'm talking more how we act and talk.
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Being modest isn't bad, being shy isn't shameful. Society makes those who are more modest/shy in their actions, dress and speech seem as if they can't be opinionated, can't be tough and thick skinned, can't be authoritative, can't be independent. Being modest/shy doesn't  mean you're weak. That's simply not true. Modesty and shyness are beautiful characteristics that are almost rare now.
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Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, "Shyness does not bring anything except good."
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It just annoys me because so many society assumes that if a person is modest/shy then they can't do anything, or that they are lacking. For example, if a guy is modest and shy they question his manhood. Why? Him being shy and modest doesn't make him any less of a man. So if a man doesn't act out all sexual like half these coconuts then he's not Macho macho? That he's a softy? That he's not independent?  The stupidity in this idea is unreal. If a woman is modest/shy you say she's oppressed, she's prude, she's too innocent. So a woman needs to be sexual to prove that she's an independent strong willed woman?
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The reason why I'm talking about this is because I see everywhere boys and girls trying to prove something by losing their modesty. Like, 'oh look at me, look what I can give you, look what I can do, look what I did.' What are you getting at? You want a cookie? Sit down pls.
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Let me put it like this, a woman or man who is shy/modest isn't lacking in anything. It doesn't make them any less man or woman. It's self respect, its a way of life  and most importantly it's in the deen. Modesty plays a huge role in Islam, but society has taught us  otherwise. Not everyone wants to sexualize everything. Some people want to keep things private or unknown.
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So if you're shy/modest don't be ashamed. Don't try to change yourself to fit in, to be a bad b, or to be a wasteman. At the end of the day, you do you..in a halal way