10 Beautiful Advices

10 beautiful advices...

🌀1) Say "Bismillah hir rahmaan nir raheem" in every single thing you are going to start doing ( In using the elevator .. sitting on a chair .. Opening The juice bottle .. Eating .. Entering the house .. take the phone .. Starting to study .. Open the fridge ...etc ) Make it a habit

🌀2) Smile to your father .. mother .. brother .. sister .. husband .. wife .. your neighbour .. workmate .. classmate .. Smile to everyone .. You'll feel great

🌀3) Before giving a charity to poor people .. Say 'salaam' to them first .. Smile to them .. Feel their pain .. Be nice to them (Even while looking at them, don't make them feel inferior to you .. they have feelings .. don't hurt them with your eyes) ..And then Give them your money .. They might be in need of your kindness more than your penny.

🌀5)Think of what you are eagerly awaiting to happen in your life .. Put a strong belief that " IT " will happen VERY soon .. Keep that Imaan shining in your heart.. And watch اللَّهُ Subhana Ta'ala 's miracles.

🌀6) If you want something .. write it down on a sheet of paper.. stick it in your room.. And make a dua every time your eyes come across that paper ( maybe it's time for acceptance of the dua ).. then wake up one hour before Fajr & ask Allah to make your wish real .. Do it .. & wait and watch Allah's blessings on your life

🌀7) Download the Holy Quran in your mobile phone & buy headphones & ''Create opportunities ' to listen to Quran in every possible way. For example : While cooking or doing house chores .. While driving .. Doing your sport exercises at the gym .. while walking home or going to school or to work .. At break times ( at work or study ) .. While working if possible .. Before sleeping ect...

🌀8)Really live your life .. Enjoy your life... Accept whatever situation you have been given & work through it happily .. Praise اللَّهُ Subhana Ta'ala .. Obey اللَّهُ Subhana Ta'ala .. Give your life over to اللَّهُ Subhana Ta'ala , and make yourself how اللَّهُ Subhana Ta'ala wants you to be, using the morals & ways of our beloved Prophet sallallaahu alayhi wasallam to be better & happier

🌀9) Share this message to others with love but only after u promise yourself to follow & make it for Allah's sake to benefit others .. Please

🌀10) Make a DUA for the one who wrote .. read .. & sent this. Make a dua for all our brothers & sisters to gain hidaayat .. happiness ..& Jannah ...Insha Allah .Aameen

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When dealing with worries about the future : Make Dua

One of the most effective ways of dealing with worries about the future is to recite this du’a which the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) used to recite:

“Allahumma aslih li deeni alladhi huwa ‘ismatu amri, wa aslih li dunyaya allati fiha ma’ashi, wa aslih li akhirati allati ilayha ma’adi, waj’al al-hayata ziyadatan li fi kulli khayr, wa’l-mawta rahatan li min kulli sharr (O Allah, correct my religious commitment which is the foundation of my life, and correct my worldly affairs in which is my livelihood, and grant me good in the Hereafter to which is my return. Make my life a means of accumulating good, and make death a respite for me from all evil).” (Narrated by Muslim, 2720).

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Invocations in times of worry and grief

Invocations in times of worry and grief

• Prayer 120 •

• اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي عَبْدُكَ، ابْنُ عَبْدِكَ، ابْنُ أَمَتِكَ، نَاصِيَتِي بِيَدِكَ، مَاضٍ فِيَّ حُكْمُكَ، عَدْلٌ فِيَّ قَضَاؤُكَ، أَسْأَلُكَ بِكُــــلِّ اسْمٍ هُوَ لَكَ، سَمَّيْتَ بِهِ نَفْسَكَ، أَوْ أَنْزَلْتَهُ فِي كِتَابِكَ، أَوْ عَلَّمْتَهُ أَحَداً مِنْ خَلْقِكَ، أَوِ اسْتَأْثَرْتَ بِهِ فِي عِلْمِ الغَيْبِ عِنْدَكَ، أَنْ تَجْعَلَ القُرْآنَ رَبِيعَ قَلْبِي، وَنُورَ صَدْرِي، وَجَلاَءَ حُزْنِي، وَذَهَابَ هَمِّي

• Allaahumma 'innee 'abduka, ibnu 'abdika, ibnu 'amatika, naasiyatee biyadika, maadhin fiyya hukmuka, 'adlun fiyya qadhaa'uka, 'as'aluka bikulli ismin huwa laka, sammayta bihi nafsaka, 'aw 'anzaltahu fee kitaabika, 'aw 'allamtahu 'ahadan min khalqika, 'awista'tharta bihi fee 'ilmil-ghaybi 'indaka, 'an taj'alal-Qur'aana rabee'a qalbee, wa noora sadree, wa jalaa'a huznee, wa thahaaba hammee .

• O Allah, I am Your slave and the son of Your male slave and the son of your female slave . My forehead is in Your Hand (i.e. you have control over me) . Your Judgment upon me is assured and Your Decree concerning me is just . I ask You by every Name that You have named Yourself with , revealed in Your Book , taught any one of Your creation or kept unto Yourself in the knowledge of the unseen that is with You , to make the Qur'an the spring of my heart, and the light of my chest, the banisher of my sadness and the reliever of my distress.

• Prayer 121 •

• اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنَ الْهَمِّ وَالْحَزَنِ، وَالْعَجْزِ وَالْكَسَلِ، وَالْبُخْلِ وَالْجُبْنِ، وَضَلَعِ الدَّيْنِ وَغَلَبَةِ الرِّجَالِ

• Allaahumma 'innee 'a'oothu bika minal-hammi walhazani, wal'ajzi walkasali, walbukhli waljubni, wa dhala'id-dayni wa ghalabatir-rijaal .

• O Allah , I seek refuge in you from grief and sadness, from weakness and from laziness, from miserliness and from cowardice, from being overcome by debt and overpowered by men (i .e . others) .

→ Reference: Al-Bukhari 7/158. See also Al-Asqalani, Fathul-Bari 11/173.

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Step by Step Ritual Bath

*Assalaamu alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu*

*Step By Step Ritual Bath*

Ritual bath includes: Ghusl Janabah (Impurity Following Sexual Discharge), Ghusl Haydah
(Menses), Ghusl Nifaas (Postpartum Bleeding), and Ghusl Mayyit (Deceased)

*Things which make ghusl obligatory are:*

• Intercourse, which is when male private part enters d female’s private part, even if he does not ejaculate. Bukhari, 291; Muslim, 348 Sharh Muslim, 4/40, 41

• Emission of maniy (either as a result
masturbation or dreaming) by male and female, Muslim 343. Mawsu’ah al-Fiqhiyyah (31/195)

• Menstruation

• Nifaas (post-partum bleeding)

Apart from the aforementioned, there are other things that scholars differ on, *these are:*

Maot (death), Jum’at, Dkhulul Islam, Eid etc.
Mawsu’ah alFiqhiyyah (31/204), Sharh al-
Mumti’ (1/379), Muwatta’ (1/51), Bukhari (282) and an-Nasaa’i (1/114), Sharh al-Sunnah (2/9) al-Mughni (1/200) al-Fath (1/389, Fatawa ash- Shaykh Ibn Baz, 10/173

*Note:* There are two more related things to *maniy*, they are *madhiy* and *wadiy*.

So, what is *maniy?*

*Maniy* is the fluid that comes out of a man in gushes and it comes out of d wman without gushes, when climax is reached
accompanied by feelings of pleasure, and is followed by physical exhaustion.

In other words, maniy refers to as semen or sperm. The man’s water is white and thick, and d woman’s water is yellow and thin. Muslim, Sahih Muslim, 311, 469.

This description
applies when a person is healthy, nd in most cases, and if a man engages in intercourse too
frequently, his semen may become red and
resemble the juice that comes from meat.
Sahih Muslim (3/222).

*Madhiy* is a gluey transparent colour fluid that is emitted when a person is thinking of or desiring intercourse; it does not gush out in gushes, its emission is not accompanied by
feelings of pleasure, and it is not followed by exhaustion. This happen to male and female alike, althogh it is more common among female. Sharh Muslim, 3/213.

This does not make ghusl obligatory; rather wuduh is
required in this case.

*Wadiy* is the white thick fluid that usually
comes out after urine, and it is known to come out as a result of sickness. This does not make ghusl obligatory.

*Ritual bath steps using acceptable water 4 purification:*

*STEP 1:* Form the intention to purify oneself from impurity

*STEP 2:* Say Bismillah and wash the hands 3 times, then wash any dirt from the private part.

*STEP 3:* Do wuduh (ablution) as for prayer, a complete wuduh.

*STEP 4:* Pour water over the head three
times, and rub the hair so that the water
reaches the roots of the hair.

*STEP 5:* Wash the entire body, making sure that the water reaches all parts, starting with the right side of the body and then the left, and rubbing it with the hands so that the water reaches the entire body, including roots of the hair, the armpits, and backs of the knees. Q5:6, Bukhari (248) and Muslim (316), Bukhari
(258) and Muslim (318). Sharh al- Mumti’(1/423) Majmu’ Fatawa Shaykh Ibn
‘Uthaymin, 11/qeustn no. 180. Majmu’
Fatawa Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen, 11/question no. 181.

*Note:* A woman does not have to undo her braided hair when she does ghusl following
janabah or menses, but she must make sure that the water reaches all parts of her body, including the hair and its roots. Muslim Sahih.Majmu’ Fataawa Shaykh Ibn Baaz, 10/182,
Majmu’ Fataawa Shaykh Ibn Baaz, 10/161. Majmu’ Fatawa Ibn ‘Uthaymin, 11/318, 319. Risalah fildima’ al-Tabi’iyyah lin-Nisaa by Shayk Ibn Uthaymin.

*May Allah grant us benefiting understanding*

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Lecture On Romance

*SUMMARY OF THE LECTURE ON A SINGLE WORD "ROMANCE"*

*Romance* is a way of "Showing" strong feelings
of love to the one you love.

Being *Romantic* is an
emotional way of proving your words to your
spouse.

A person can be in love but not romantic and a person can be romantic but not in love. Love is not romance and romance is not love, so the best of marriages are those that contain both love and romance covered with affection!

The Prophet (P.B.U.H) said,
The best of you are the best to their wives and I am the best of you to my wives (sahih al- Bukhari).

The Prophet clearly showed us here that he is the most romantic, caring, loving and sweetest husband to his wives. What a lovely hadith.

Even Allah Himself said,
*Hunna libasun laqum wa antum libasun lahunna.*
(They are garments for you and you are garments for them).

What better way can romance be described?

Many couples today are not romantic to each other, they only kiss each other during
copulation, they only hug each other when they receive good news. The husband only put food
in his wife's mouth when she is sick and too weak to eat by herself, the wife only buys gifts and provisions for her husband when he is hospitalized. They don't even
exchange love SMS', the only text they exchange is *"please call me".*

These are couples who feel its *"Childish"* to be romantic, they take life so serious that they are either discussing PDP and APC or how to solve the problems in the house. The husband merely sees the wife as a baby making machine, therefore, he only goes to her when he needs another child.

The wife too only sees her husband as a drilling
machine, she only entices him when she is horny
and needs some drilling.

They share the same bed every night yet they turn their backs on each other when sleeping and snoring. Rather than enjoying the marriage, they merely endure each other. Yet when this two see romance being displayed on TV, they secretly admire it.

Sheik Uthaymeen, Rahimahullah said,
*The wife becomes happy with her husband when he fulfils his duty, SHOWS HER LOVE, helps her and vice versa.*
(al'liqaa as'shari p40)
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When a couple is not romantic, even if they
claim to love each other, the love withers away gradually. Love in the heart is like a seed planted on the farm. If you don't irrigate it (with
romance), it will slowly dry up and die away, until you begin to see your spouse as nothing but a mere liability.

The prophet Salallahu Alayhi Wassalam said, *Trust in Allah but tie your camel.* (sunan Tirmidhi 1925).

Don't just rely on Allah that he will sustain your marriage, put in your efforts to make the marriage last.

Sheik Saalih al-Fawzaan:
*Marry a loving woman who will love her man. Don't marry a dry woman who doesn't.*
(Al ittihaf p 875)

Dear Abu,
If you are not romantic towards your wife, do not
complain that she wears rags all over the house. Why will she adorn herself for you, when you won't even look at her or give her a compliment?

At times, some wives will spend hours plaiting a very stressful but beautiful hairstyle just to
please their husbands, when the husband comes home, he won't even notice the new hair because he doesn't CARE!!

Sometimes your wife spends hours preparing a
delicious meal, she inhales smoke, pepper and onion, at the end you will only eat the food and belch. No compliments. If one day her food is salty, you will tongue lash her. What kind of a husband are you who never sees good things but only the bad things?

Shaykh Raslan Said,

*Women are very fragile, if you utter a wrong word she will run away from you, if you utter a good word, she will come and sit next to you.*
(Mu'asharatun Nisa'a)

Brother, go to the market and buy sexy undies for her
like spaghetti, G-strings and leggings, if you still see her wearing wrapper, tell her to come, when she comes standing in front of you, remove the wrapper throw it away and tell her, *"go and use those new undies I bought for you"* But if you know you didn't shop for her recently, *please* don't throw her wrapper oooo, else you won't see meat in your food for the next two weeks.

Dear Sisters,
*Learn to be romantic, don't stop being romantic simply because your husband is not. Two wrongs do not make a right. Don't get tired of looking good for him.*

Many women begin to wear extra large pants after having just two kids. An extra large pant is not seductive please, its like wearing a basket. Am very serious 😡. Some extra large pants needs slimming. Farting on an extra large pant makes it larger, like the
adult pampers in hospitals. It's an eye sore please. Wear something sexier.

Dear Ummi, know when to demand for some things. For instance, if you have Apollo (Conjunctivitis), *don't* go to your husband and say, *"habeebi (my love), look into my eyes and tell me you love me"* How will he look into your eyes when you have apollo?

Many couples do not care about pleasing each other at all. They don't adorn themselves for each other.
When they have to discuss at night, they need to stylishly move far from each other because of smelly mouths since they refuse to brush before sleeping.

The Prophet and Aisha were so romantic that they even used the same brush. Aisha radiAllahu anha said, The Prophet would use siwaak, then he would give me to wash. I would use it first, then wash it and give it back to him.
(Abu Dawood 1/45)

Spouses should learn to tickle and poke each other. Pinch his bombom, scratch his ribs or his toes, it will make him laugh uncontrollably. Call each other with sweet names. The prophet sometimes shorten Aisha's name to
"Aeesh" or Humaira.

Abdur Rahman bin Abu- bakr said, My father, Abu Bakr Siddiq once hosted some of
the ahlu suffah. He asked my mother to serve them food, whenever we took a morsel, the food will grow bigger. Abu bakr said to his wife, Oh sister of Banu Firas, what is this? She said, ya Qurratu Ayn, (oh you pleasure of my eyes), the food has increased thrice in quantity.
(Bukhari, Muslim).

If all muslim men give their muslim women their
rights in full, there will be no disbelieving woman on earth who would not respect Muslim women.

Finally,
Men should learn to call their wives in romantic ways. *Stop calling her "mama Sikira".*
Women too should learn to address their husbands with sweet names, do not save your husbands phone number with *"Baban Ali or Dauda"*  Please try to use words like my heart or my king and others.

Brothers and sisters my interest in this statement is to eradicate *Divorce* in our homes completely. *May Allah bless our married couples. For those who are still on the process, may Allah bless you with good and rightful spouses. Ameen.

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Update : Br. Junaid Jamshed

UPDATE
Please, try  log in to Br. Junaid Jamshed's Facebook page, where there is a video of his last Jumah from a few days ago. I cannot believe the two verses that he chose to recite in the last Jumah he led, for they are so tragically beautiful in light of this accident:

https://www.facebook.com/mrjunaidjamshedofficial/videos/vb.248679805168378/1205390379497311/?type=3&theater

In the first rakah, he recited Baqara 153-7, in which we are told that those who die in the way of Allah are not dead, but alive with their Lord. And we are also commanded to say 'To Allah we belong and to Him We shall return' at times of calamity.

In the second rakah, he recited Fussilat 30-33, in which we are informed that the best of mankind are those who call to Allah, and do good deeds, and proclaim their faith. And Allah will comfort such people at the time of death - the angels themselves will comfort them even as they welcome them to Paradise.

It is very moving that these were his last verses, and insha Allah it is a positive sign at the beautiful death that Allah blessed him with.

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Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji'oon....

A PIA plane has crashed and it is feared that all on it have died, including the famous singer turned preacher, Junaid Jamshed.

May Allah have mercy on him and all of those who died!

In the summer of 1992, when I was a student at the University of Houston, Junaid Jamshed came with his band 'Vital Signs' to perform a singing tour at our campus. Hundreds of Muslim students went to attend, and of course there was the standard music, dancing and singing going on at the time. Our Muslim Student Association (of which I was an integral part!) decided to stand outside that event, and pass out fliers reminding Muslims that this was not appropriate for them to do. I was a part of that 'protest' outside of Junaid's hall.
Then, Allah guided Junaid to leave the music industry and become a preacher.
Fifteen years later, after I had graduated from Madinah, in the summer of 2007 in London at the GPU event sponsored by Islam Channel, I met Junaid Jamshed and informed him of that story. This was minutes after we had both shared a stage speaking to the largest audience in the Western world - over forty thousand people. I said to him how Allah works in mysterious ways: one day I was warning against his concert, and now we were both sharing the same stage for the same message! And I gifted him a copy of my Dua book. He was so moved and humbled that I'll never forget what he did: he literally hugged me and I could see his eyes well up with tears.

Truly, Allah raises those whom He pleases and writes love for them in this world.

May Allah accept Junaid Jamshed's death as a martyrdom (along with all of those who died!) and bless their families with patience and comfort at this trying time.

Yasir Qadhi

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The Woman Of Jannah

THE WOMAN OF JANNAH      

In Suraah Ahzaab, Allah Ta`ala has mentioned the following ten qualities which every Muslim should strive to inculcate in themselves. The woman of Jannah is one who has the following qualities:

1.           SHE IS A MUSLIMAH:

She readily, willingly and cheerfully submits to Allah’s commands. She does not question the wisdom of the Shariah. “Men have charge over women” says Allah. The woman of wonder does not believe in “gender equality, etc.” and does not suffer from an inferior complex, as she is fully aware that in her role as a home executive she gains the Pleasure of Allah Ta`ala.

2. SHE IS A MU’MINAH:

Filled with Imaan from head to toe, her faith is unshakable. Her quest and mission in life: to perfect her Imaan and serve her husband.
3. SHE IS CONTENTED:

The woman of Jannah is more than contented with her lot. She craves not an iota nor a drop of the Dunya. She has no complaints nor demands. She does not waste her time roaming in malls etc. as this does not enthrall her.

4. SHE IS TRUTHFUL:

Truthfulness is her trademark. In intention, in speech and deed, the woman of wonder is truthful to Allah and His Rasul (Sallallahu alayhi Wasallam). She is loyal to her husband. She detests falsehood, hypocrisy and pretence.

5. SHE HAS SABR:

The woman of Jannah is a mountain of Sabr. She has accepted Sabr as her lot since her desire is to enter Jannah. Sabr with her husband, Sabr with in-laws, Sabr with children, Sabr in overseeing the affairs of her home. Sabr, yes Sabr — lots and lots of it.

6.      SHE IS HUMBLE:

Hidden deep within the bowels of the earth, lay gems and gold. These are only of benefit when the earth is cut and sliced apart.  The earth seldom takes offence. Instead it yields its riches to the very ones who destroyed its features. The women of Jannah is as humble as the earth, full of goodness to others without expecting anything in return. She seeks no name, no fame, no glory, no prizes, no acknowledgement for her deeds.

7. SHE IS CHARITABLE:

The woman of Jannah is always looking for ways to be charitable. In her free time, some times she would cook a pot of food for the poor or invite relatives. Sometimes knit a garment for an orphan. In speech she is charitable with praises for others. And yes, she fears propagating her charitable acts, lest it is told to her on the Day of Qiyaamah to find her rewards by those whom she sought to please in the World.

8.   SHE FASTS:

Bearing her health in mind, she fasts regularly. Nafl fasts are conditional to her husband’s approval; Fardh fasts not so. The woman of Jannah hastens to complete her Qadha fasts.

9.     SHE IS CHASTE:

The woman of Jannah jealously guards her chastity. In accordance to the commands of Allah Ta’ala she lowers her eyesight; remains glued indoors and converses in a non-alluring manner with strangers in times of severe need, from behind a curtain. The woman of wonder acts upon the Holy Qur’aan and ensures that she avoids anything that may attract the attention of forbidden males to herself Thus, she never passes the gathering of men having applied perfumes, nor does she attend weddings where she is exposed to others on the roads, etc.

Rasullullah Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam honoured  Hadhrat Fatima Radiallahu anha because she said that the best conduct of a woman is: “They (women) should not look at men and men should not look at them.” Such is the high degree of chastity of a woman of wonder!

10.    SHE REMEMBERS ALLAH IN ABUNDANCE:

The woman of Jannah does not waste her precious time.
More precious than a pearl necklace around her neck, is a Tasbeeh in her hand. This soothes her aching heart which is always desirous for meeting Allah Ta’ala.

A woman of Jannah is intelligent and has no urge to prove how clever she is by hankering for a university degree. She recognizes that Allah has created her differently and that her role in life is different form that of a man. She understands fully that her husband is the door to her Jannah and service to him the key to that door. She does not betray his secrets nor seek the pleasure of others — be it her very own parents — at the expense of her husband’s displeasure. A wise shepherdess she is to her flock, caring and feeding them, clothing them and educating them, ever mindful that no harm befalls them and no pain afflicts them.

HER PRIZE???

Such a woman of Jannah has been promised by Allah His Forgiveness and an immense reward!

Such a woman’s name will echo throughout the plains of Qiyaamah. Her prize will be an entry into Jannah from any of its’ eight gates. Owing to her fear of Allah, perhaps to her surprise, she will find two Jannahs awaiting her. Therein she will know no pain, tiredness or fear. Gone are the days of making Sabr.

Forever she will remain young with countless of servants to serve her. Every conceivable delight will be at her fingertips. A lifetime was spent cooking, baking, frying, washing and in worry. Now she will simply be pampered with the most choicest of dishes. In lieu of remaining glued to the four walls of her house, she will be permitted to roam and fly on horses made of gold. In return for her obedience to Allah and His Rasul Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam, she now will sit with a crown on her head and have scores of damsels to beckon.

In return for upholding the correct Shar’i Hijaab, she will be adorned with clothing that will consist of seventy colourful shades. This true wonder of a woman’s prize is “what no eyes had seen, no ears had heard and no mind had conceived.” May all our sisters have the Taufeeq to pursue this dream. (Aamiyn)
Aamiyn Thumma Aamiyn Yaa Rabbal Aalameen.!!!!💌     Only Allah can bless all muslimahs to create within our hearts a fervent desire to pursue this DREAM Insha Allah,to become the women of Jannah...and attain EVERLASTING success, salvation , peace and ACCEPTANCE in the Court of Allah Rabbul Izzat...Aamiynn.💚✨💐

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Your Deen

Your deen - is your deen. A spouse might improve it - or they might not. Your relationship with Allah depends on you - your prayers, your #dhikr, your #Quran.
When looking for a spouse - you cannot expect them to have qualities you don't have.

1) If you don't have 5 prayers down - do that first. Forget finding someone to better yourself, use an alarm clock, use an app, use your friends and fix yourself. I'm sure you expect your future children to have a fundamental pillar of Islam down - but you don't even have it down! 24 hours in a day, if you take 5 mins in each prayer (even though you shouldn't quicken it), it's still only 25 minutes. Allah gives you 24 hours, and you're too selfish and ungrateful to give back even half an hour?

2) This is more for sisters who dream about their husbands having amazing recitation voices: when was the last time you picked up the Quran and recited the words so the angels could hear you. Recited - not shyly, but loudly, feeling the words hit your heart.

3) "I don't want my wife to have any guy friends" okay cool, are you done hanging out with your coed groups too? & vice versa. But the thing is - are you really going to text "bye" to all your friends the opposite gender, the night before you wedding? Is that when you delete all the opposite gender off your facebook?

4) "I'm going to start practicing (hijaab/qiyaam/Quran/etc) after I get married in-sha'-Allah" - yeah? Says who? Is there some magic button the rest of the married couples missed out on? What if your significant other isn't okay with how you plan on practicing your deen - don't you think that if you want to become practicing and have someone who wants a practicing spouse - they too want someone who is *already* practicing?

5) "I want someone who cooks" - guess what. "Both genders should know how to cook because neither feminism or sexism is going to help you when you're hungry." - at least some basic items.

6) & For those of you who want that extra practicing person. Man, how awesome it would be to have someone who pray #tahajjud and #duha and fasts on Mondays and Thursdays and reads Quran every single day. Well - be that person. Why should Allah gift you something, where is your relationship with Allah? & Just because you may end up with someone who is on point with their nawafil - does not mean that it will for sure rub off on you and you'll get it.
(& Since we're on the topic - their past is none of your business. Religiousness changes - people change. None of you came out of the womb practicing your deen. Everyone has flaws. What you look at is the present. You can't look at things that Allah already forgave. If you see someone whose pious now - why on earth would you expose a past sin - it means Allah took them in already. And if they're worthy of Allah's forgiveness - who are you to be judging?)

We have to all get back on track. Get back into full gear. Become this unstoppable force of nature. Go to the step you're afraid of taking. #Fajr on time - yes. Tahajjud every single day - yes. Duha during the day - yes. A page of Quran every day - yes. Just make a list and keep checking things off. You have no idea how far you can go. It is Allah who facilitates it for you.

At the end of the day - you face Allah alone.
Your pile of deeds are not split between you and your spouse. It is your pile. Your grave. Your life. Your questioning.
#Jannah is yours - Allah talks to you directly in the Quran, to enter His garden.

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